Sweet and sour, all in one. How do we learn to balance? When the things that make us smile at one time makes us cry in the next tier. You are happy one minute and the next you are teaching your heart to cope with pain. You want to believe that it gets better after the stage that you are trying to conquer but then you see people still going through hell in the next stage.
Life, each stage comes with its own challenges, we pull through one but are you prepared for the next? Challenges that never end till we breathe our last. How do we keep fighting? Who motivates us when we are tired? How do we keep smiling with people and being happy when we know that they could cause us more pain in the nearest future? How do we learn not to think of those possibilities in the present and smile without pain or fear?
Talk about making things right after the hurt, some will tell you “See things the way they are and don’t make excuses” and another group will say “You don’t know the struggle, fights and options they had so always make excuses for people” and then a third group will say “People will hurt you but always let it go because you need people around”. They’d say the same thing to everyone not minding their experience.
All these things make life hard and also interesting. In each stage we have to face our challenges for it makes the difference between the stages. Unlike school, life doesn’t come with a set of rules and regulations, so who knows whether we are all doing it wrong? Or who is sure they are on the right path? It just makes it certain that nobody is sure that the path they are on is the right one but we are moving and growing and one day we would breathe our last, therefore we have to concentrate on the good things and people and times too, pray it is returned but try not to expect it to be that way. Live each day, the bad times will come, surely people will hurt ypu but remember you will also hurt people too knowingly or unknowingly, why live with the hurtful feeling when you know it may be absent in the next “tier” and why would you choose worry over the peace and joy of the moment?.
The good times will make you happy, the good people will make you feel warm and never alone; these feelings, these love may be worth the hurt. We must learn to savour them, value them more than the hurtful times and learn from the pain, not living in it, Never live in it.
Life goes on Regardless…